Disabled people have happy, healthy relationships just like able bodied people do - despite there being little representation of this on-screen and in the media.

And, when there is representation, disabled characters are often looked upon as "brave" and an "inspiration" which blogger Jessica Kellgren-Fozard says can be patronising as hell.

That's why this Twitter thread asking couples to share how they show love is so important, and why it's gone viral.


Imani Barbarin first posted on Twitter, asking:

Disabled People:
What are some of the physical ways your partner makes you feel loved that are different from the way abled people show love?
And Imani's question has sparked hundreds of moving responses.

@KatAMacfarlane explained her partner had been creative with his talents, so she could join in too.

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Disability activist @4WheelWorkOut explained her partner used touch to make her feel loved.

@shaindonnelly said just being believed was a huge support in a relationship.

Shain added, "(You experience so many people and doctors who think you’re faking when you have an invisible disability and it’s a relief to be supported.)"

Meghan, posting under @Bakpaksgotjets said the best thing her partner did was respecting her body, and her needs.

And other users wrote about how dedicated their partners were.

"He dresses me on days I can't dress myself. He feeds me on days I can't feed myself. It's not just affection, but dedication," wrote @kim_from_kansas.

@kelsdi said the most supportive thing her partner's done is just accept her.

@Lyndsie_Laura's partner is so thoughtful it makes her cry on occasion.

And @tinaprice02 explained her partner is going through stuff too, but always manages to make her laugh.

[h/t Refinery29UK]