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Heather Hironimus breaks down as she signs consent for her four-year-old son to be circumcised at the South County courthouse. Photograph: Amy Beth Bennett/Zuma Press/Corbis
Heather Hironimus breaks down as she signs consent for her four-year-old son to be circumcised at the South County courthouse. Photograph: Amy Beth Bennett/Zuma Press/Corbis

Mother agrees to son’s circumcision in exchange for release from Florida jail

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Heather Hironimus signs paperwork giving approval for four-year-old boy’s surgery after a yearslong battle with the child’s father and a week in jail

A Florida woman’s yearslong battle with her child’s father over the boy’s circumcision ended on Friday after she agreed to the procedure in exchange for her release from jail.

In a remarkable turnaround after a week behind bars for contempt and an initial hearing in which she was ordered to remain jailed, court reconvened and a sobbing Heather Hironimus signed paperwork giving approval for the four-year-old boy’s surgery, recoiling in tears and clasping her shackled hands after it was done. The shift, though under duress, threatened the hero status given to Hironimus by a bubbling movement of anti-circumcision advocates who have followed the case’s every turn.

She remained jailed Friday afternoon and was due back in court Tuesday on a separate criminal charge of interfering with child custody. It was not clear how soon she would be released.

Attorneys for both Hironimus and the boy’s father, Dennis Nebus, declined to comment, citing an ongoing gag order in the case.

Georganne Chapin, executive director of Intact America, which advocates against circumcision, said Hironimus had been “bullied” into signing, calling it the “saddest commentary on the court”.

“I don’t know what’s in his head,” she said of Judge Jeffrey Gillen, who presided over the case. “I don’t know how he can sleep at night.”

Hironimus and Nebus had initially agreed to the circumcision in a parenting agreement filed in court, but the mother later changed her mind. Circuit and appellate judges sided with the father, but potential surgeons backed out after failing to get the mother’s consent and becoming the target of protesters.

Hironimus went missing with the boy in February, ignoring warnings from Gillen to be in court and allow the circumcision to proceed. She remained missing until her arrest last week, staying in a domestic violence shelter. With her legal options dwindling, she filed a federal civil rights lawsuit on behalf of her son, looking for a solution outside state court.

But her attorney abruptly withdrew that case Wednesday, two days after its first hearing, when a judge expressed open skepticism of its merits.

Upon arriving in court Friday, chained at the wrists and ankles and wearing a navy blue jail jumpsuit, Hironimus quietly invoked her fifth amendment rights when asked whether she had signed the consent agreement. Gillen said Hironimus would be jailed indefinitely unless she did.

Her mother, Mary Hironimus, fought back tears but said her daughter was right to fight for her son.

“Of course it’s worth it,” she said, “any mother would do anything for her child.”
Gillen approved a motion by Nebus’ attorney, May Cain, to temporarily give the father sole decision-making over matters including his son’s health and to travel out of state, if needed, to have the circumcision performed. Cain said her client had been receiving death threats and warnings his son would be kidnapped.

“I am fearful that the child might be abducted,” Gillen said.

After Hironimus agreed to sign the form and court reconvened, Gillen offered advice to the parents: “You are both going to continue to be the parents to this young man. You’re going to have to learn how to deal with that in an amicable, friendly, civil manner. You’re going to have to always take into consideration what’s in your child’s best interest. To the extent that you may differ on things, you’re going to have to talk them out. That’s what parents do in a civilized society. You do not take the law into your own hands.”

Though Chapin and other so-called “intactivists” remained dismayed by the developments, she said Gillen had inadvertently advanced the anti-circumcision cause.

“People who never gave it a thought before are appalled and repulsed,” she said.

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